We all have a story to tell, whether good or bad, our lives are like chains that connect each link. While washing the dishes, I thought about my life and how amazing God is because I would never survive such tragedies without him. At the same time, I started to think about people from developing countries who do not know Christ. If they became a Christian in a non-believing area, they are persecuted for their faith. I started to compare and made me realize that what makes my experience less worth telling then someone else’s. Is there a meter that measures these things? The thoughts that runs through our mind while do our chores. Even housework reminds us of purity and soberness so we can be one with our God and our thoughts.
I proceeded to make an argument with myself that one cannot devalue someone else’s experience regardless of the level of intensity. For example, a baby was abandoned by his/her parents and was sent to foster care. He/She never knew his parents nor they pursued their child later in life. He either grew up falling further down the rabbit hole doing drugs, drinking alcohol or gambling or he became a successful entrepreneur.
Another individual came from a good family. They are happy, contented with their lives. They go to church, active in ministry and are doing well financially. All the sudden, as the children got older, the parent’s relationship starts to fall apart and the father is having an affair. The mother is depressed but at the same time trying so hard to stay strong for her children. Their kids are struggling emotionally. They cannot the shake the fact that their father would act the way he did. Yet, they still strive to finish school but they are torn apart inside. It is like diving off a cliff but you keep falling without hitting a surface.
So, here is the question, who’s life experience is more important? The foster child or the broken family? I imagine talking to someone in my generation about my past and they swoop in comparing theirs with mine. Their past may be worst than mine but does it mean mine is not as valid?
Galatian 3:28 says that “There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.”
We are all equal. so every experience, past or present and even future, are equally valid. You might feel that all you efforts are wasted because your life is not as interesting as you think. It is interesting to God than what you assume. Even if we went through the worst of the worst, it is when we get out of the circumstance that really counts. Staying in darkness will only gather self pity, anger, bitterness and all the demons that desire such dwelling place. We do not end our story with our trials instead we conquer them to keep us humble.
Sometimes, we are not ready to make that decision. If we finally do, know this, no one has the right to compare or judge you when finally come out of that shell. You are a child of God no matter. You are no longer a slave to fear, you are child of God. I believe this is a song and bible verse.
The foster child may have parental issues, the broken family have their own situations to face as well. Each family member may have secrets they struggle with. One may be suffering from porn addiction or the youngest child of the family is suicidal and depress before the father committed adultery. We are unique and yet equal in the eyes of God. He does not judge us by how many failures we have. He loves us all the same. He sees out struggle as an opportunity for us to learn.
We should not reassure ourselves by comparison. We need to view other people’s struggles and victories as life lessons. Sometimes, similar situations produce different results. We all learn from one another. Not one person is better than the other. The bible tells us in Roman 12:3 “For by the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith that God has assigned.”
Galatians 6:4-6 “But let each one test his own work, and then his reason to boast will be in himself alone and not in his neighbor. For each will have to bear his own load.”
Do not compare yourself being better because of how far you fell in the darkness. Our past serves as a reminder . Anyone is bound to repeat such mistakes if they do not learn from others or from themselves.
It is truly amazing what chores can do for us. A thought turned into a inspiring post. I hope you learned something today like I did. Just remember to remind yourself of God’s goodness. He is forever watching over us and love us very much.
God bless everyone!